Power Struggle

Relationships between a man and woman vary from person to person but with in every relationship there is a power struggle between significant others. I was once told that the person who doesn't have as much of an emotional investment holds the power with in a relationship.

Naturally, when in relationships and emotions begin to run high, ones protective walls begin to come down. In the process of someone becoming more and more comfortable with their significant other, someone can become vulnerable and let down their guard. What happens when this only happens on one end of the relationship? What if their emotional investment is not equally yolked?

To not have those feelings reciprocated from that special someone can really hurt. It may not be done blatantly to put up road blocks to ward off your love coming their way but when you begin to wonder why someone may not feel the way you feel or want to see you as much it can be difficult to understand. Ok, yes depending on that persons past experiences in relationships they may be a little more guarded when in a new situation. If this is the case this is where clear lines of communications have to be established because when things are left up for interpretation it can be disastrous. If you cant speak freely to one another, why be together? You don't get into a relationship to keep secrets. You get into a relationship because you have a genuine cosmic attraction to that person.

There are some people who play on others emotions because they know they have the upper hand in the relationship. Now that is just mean and childish. Hopefully no one is experiencing that because thats trifling.

My mother always told me that a relationship works better if the man is into the woman more than she is into him. What do you think? It is true that some men easily become bored. This is understandable since men are "hunters". Once a lion hunts its first prey it doesn't loose its urge to hunt even after being put into captivity at the zoo. I guess that is why zoologist continue to find new ways to engage the lion. What can women do to keep them engaged? My best guess is to just continue to be yourself.

In relationships despite the natural power struggle, everyone has played the submissive role before. Relationships go through phases and despite whether it is a high peak or a low peak, one of the two people will switch roles from time to time. I think the key is to have both parties be strong where the other person may be weak. Remember relationships, dating, and love are a hell of a roller coaster. Know what you're getting your self into.