My 'Fro Woes

As I sit in my bathroom after washing and conditioning my hair, I become frustrated! Since becoming a naturalista, I have had failed attempts at achieving a curly like afro. My hair is too soft to make the rounded off look I see so many natural divas rocking!

I have tried it all; air drying, diffusing, scrunching while diffusing, etc. I have flat twisted, braided, two strand twist, three strand twist, bantu knotted my self crazy. Nothing will work. Don't get me wrong, I love my curl pattern (3b,c,4a) but I want VOLUME,  VOLUME, VOLUME, and MORE VOLUME!!! I am becoming obsessed but from I am learning from the 1,000 and one natural hair gurus on youtube, is that when traveling on this natural hair journey I have to be patient. Although it has been more than two years since my last relaxer I am still de-programming my mind from the instantaneous changes that I was accustomed to that came from the "creamy crack" process. I have to accept that my natural curls require an abundance of T.L.C.

It is a constant process. Some say, "A" is for afro but right now I feel as if "A" is for aggravation! Maybe one day when Im not trying to make it afro like it will take shape on its own. Do you think its possible? Lets cross our fingers.

I did a braid/two strand twist combo yesterday after washing.After washing, deep conditioning, and detangling with the denman brush I sectioned my hair off and braided the roots. Next I two-strand twisted the ends. Added coconut oil and let it air dry. After drying over night, I separated each braid/twist and lightly fingered through it.

As you can see from the look on my face I was not all that pleased with the outcome. I think its cute if this was the look I was shooting for but thats not the case. I was attempting to stay away from the "mushroom" look.

6 Creative Ways To Keep Her Happy

1. Mental Stimulation
Guys, you can instantly put a smile on her face by sending a text message or email that is thoughtful, sweet, and a little dirty. Send her something that will stay on her mind through out her day at work during those boring meetings or those afternoon play dates with the neighbors' kids. Women love and appreciate it when their men can stimulate their cerebrum. Remember the mind controls the body. Stimulate her mind and you're guaranteed to have stimulated her in other "areas" as well.

2. Edible Loving
Instead of merely cooking her a dinner (which is always appreciated) try something a little more intimate, create an exquisite meal together! If you have a few bucks to splurge, go to a cooking class together. It doesn't necessarily have to be a cooking class geared towards only dinner, maybe a pastry/dessert class.
If you're trying to make her smile but trying to stay recession free, you can do this at home too. All you'll need is your DVR, the Food Network, and the necessary groceries. If you have a favorite TV personality on the Food Network you can record one of their shows you have previously viewed to use as the cooking guide for you and your lady. When she comes in from work or has put the little one to bed, tell her your plans for making a romantic dinner for two, by two!

3. Revive The Chivalry
When your out at a fancy schmancy restaurant open the car door, the restaurant door, pull out her chair, and let her sit down before you do. To really add an extra touch of "old school game" to the evening out, when she excuses herself to the restroom, stand when she leaves and re-enters. Your grandfathers used this to keep you're grandmother all these years, so it must work, right?

4. Tune Her Into A Tune
The power and accessibility of the internet can be used as a one of your methods to make her blush. If the two of you are behind a computer at a desk at work all day, you can dedicate a tune to her via internet. If you both listen to the same internet radio station, when a song that is your favorite or her favorite is on air, shoot her an email to tell her the song reminds you of her or it explains exactly how she makes you feel. Another internet wooing tool is youtube. Email or text her the link to the love song that is dear to your hearts.

5. Please Her 101
If she has been busy lately and you know that list of things that she hasn't had time to complete, do some of those tasks for her. While she is napping, if she needs her car washed or her oil changed be a sweetheart take care of it for her. She'll love the fact that you turned something so practical into a loving gesture!

6. She Wants That Old Thing Back
Remember when you first began dating one another and you couldn't get enough of her kisses or touch, bring that back. When she least expects it, kiss her like you used to, passionately. Women love to be kissed, it is a very intimate and sensual act. Plus if you start with a passionate kiss, she'll bring some old things back that she used to do early in the relationship!