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The Sensual Kiss

The power of a kiss is unmeasurable. A kiss can end a heat argument between lovers, soothe ones spirit, cause a skip in someones heartbeat, or seal a commitment that will last forever. Whether it is a bird peck, eskimo kiss, forehead kiss or a french kiss they all can ignite an intensity. The mere act of a kiss can be considered as endearing, heart felt, and passionate. When you kiss the right person and the correct moment, each time can be engrained into your memory. 

If your chemistry with that person is well balanced the kisses you share can be magical. Whether it is the first kiss or the one on the way out the door this morning, they are all memorable. If a kiss is really good and sensual, it can leave you think about it periodically through out the day. The art of kissing has been thrown by the waist side. Either people share kisses with random people or they have forgotten about the power of a kiss. 

Remember your first time with your significant other, didn't it all start with a kiss? I highly doubt that memorable and progressive moment in the relationship started with one of you rushing to get down to "business". There are so many couples that have forgotten to kiss one another. It's an easy way to read your partners tempo for how things will go later on in the evening. Whats the rush anyway? Its a fun way to elongate and explore each other.

Toxic People

Have you ever had an acquaintance, friend turned "frienemy", or relative that deserved to have this picture as their contact photo in your cell? There are some people that just ooze negativity and are an instant kill buzz. I wonder why is it that we keep these toxic people around. It's strange that sometimes the most negative person you know seems to have nine lives with family and friends.

Personally, I have a very small group of friends and that is primarily by choice. I chose to do a "cleanse" of those I felt served no purpose in my life. When I felt people were takers and never givers in the friendship I had with them, I quickly cut them off. If someone wasn't returning the same positive vibes I exuded out into the universe, they were cut from my team. You have to be on a constant path of positivity to be apart of my life. If you're going in a certain direction in life I would think you would want to surround yourself with like minded people. Just because you have known a person for a certain amount of time doesn't guarantee them a spot in your life. 

When you look up one day wondering why your drained after talking to a friend because you felt as if you have been talking in circles, it isn't hard to figure out. Some people aren't at a point in their life where they are comfortable enough with themselves to be open minded, motivated, and supportive of others. When I pledged into my sorority, I learned that I have control in every aspect of my life. Something so simple had never been clear to me before that process. So if I have control over who is in my life and if I don't like how they treat me, then why keep them around? If the mere act of talking or interacting with someone is mentally draining on a regular basis then that means they were only meant to last a season in my life and not my lifetime! Positive thoughts+positive people+positive actions= POSITIVE RESULTS!!!

The Forehead Kiss

Many women are baffled by what the true meaning of the forehead kiss actually is. In the movie "The Best Man" Taye Diggs character made the "forehead kiss" his signature. From what I could gather from his reasoning for doing the forehead kiss was to limit intimate interaction. He never wanted to become "too" close to the women he surrounded himself with. The kiss was sweet yet distant.

Personally, I find the forehead kiss to be endearing and thoughtful. It can represent his respect for you to not attempt to slobber you down everytime he attempts to kiss you. It is a sweet gesture in my eyes. By nature most men are not affectionate in the same manner as women. Yes, some men like to kiss, touch, and feel but most times it is because they are in the act of an intimate moment. I think women are prone to give their spouse a kiss in the cheek.

I did a search of "forehead kiss" and to my surprise it is hot topic. One of the websites I clicked on had a video of a guy and girl duo who gave relationship advice http://www.girlsaskguys.com/Other-Questions/10647-what-does-a-kiss-on-the-forehead-mean.html. They think the forehead kiss has two meanings; the guy wants to keep you in the "friend zone" or he is doing it from a fraternal point of view. I don't understand why someone would date a guy that could be confused about being interested romantically or from a father perspective. If you do, seek counseling to find out the root of that problem. Wouldn't most guys who want to keep a woman in the "friend zone" limit almost all physical interaction if that was his motive? Why kiss a woman anywhere or at anytime if you're trying to keep her in the friend zone? The kiss has a different meaning for different people. To each his own!

My 'Fro Woes

As I sit in my bathroom after washing and conditioning my hair, I become frustrated! Since becoming a naturalista, I have had failed attempts at achieving a curly like afro. My hair is too soft to make the rounded off look I see so many natural divas rocking!

I have tried it all; air drying, diffusing, scrunching while diffusing, etc. I have flat twisted, braided, two strand twist, three strand twist, bantu knotted my self crazy. Nothing will work. Don't get me wrong, I love my curl pattern (3b,c,4a) but I want VOLUME,  VOLUME, VOLUME, and MORE VOLUME!!! I am becoming obsessed but from I am learning from the 1,000 and one natural hair gurus on youtube, is that when traveling on this natural hair journey I have to be patient. Although it has been more than two years since my last relaxer I am still de-programming my mind from the instantaneous changes that I was accustomed to that came from the "creamy crack" process. I have to accept that my natural curls require an abundance of T.L.C.

It is a constant process. Some say, "A" is for afro but right now I feel as if "A" is for aggravation! Maybe one day when Im not trying to make it afro like it will take shape on its own. Do you think its possible? Lets cross our fingers.

I did a braid/two strand twist combo yesterday after washing.After washing, deep conditioning, and detangling with the denman brush I sectioned my hair off and braided the roots. Next I two-strand twisted the ends. Added coconut oil and let it air dry. After drying over night, I separated each braid/twist and lightly fingered through it.

As you can see from the look on my face I was not all that pleased with the outcome. I think its cute if this was the look I was shooting for but thats not the case. I was attempting to stay away from the "mushroom" look.

The Heart Beat

His essence is intoxicating
He is a visionary
His drive for the finer things in life are not done boastfully
Acting in silence
Working ever so diligently to build a palace


A place where the very being of his unquestionable manliness will dwell
A place where he will eat good
Live good
Love well
A place that he will build rooms on top of rooms for when my belly will swell

The very sound of his voice is exactly what my ears have always been waiting to listen for
The answer to prayers I have yet to pray
His words encourage me
They purify and keep my soul in a constant state of clean
His words have a hold on me
Those words explore my mind as if it were his fingers tracing every inch of my body

Forever growing and helping to expand my view on this world
Understanding and relating to my struggle
Knowing the trials and tribulations I face because my skin is similar to color of when caramel begins to boil
Walking side by side
Never leaving me behind
Through his heart I find the true meaning of how one should be kind

How did he convince me of his greatness?
Well, that my dear  as you can see that can not be explained in just one line.